[Java] Make it run well with the netty newest version 4.1.104

[panbingkun]

Describe the enhancement requested

When I used netty arrow memory 14.0.1 and netty 4.1.104.Final in Spark, the following error occurred,
After pr: netty/netty#13613, PoolArena no longer extends SizeClasses, but instead uses it as one of its fields, as follows:

in order to ensure that netty arrow memory 14.0.1 works well with netty 4.1.104.Final version, I suggest making similar modifications here.
1.Compilation errors are as follows:
https://github.com/panbingkun/spark/actions/runs/7237466030/job/19717162391

2.Some bugs have been fixed in netty 4.1.104.Final as follows:

4.1.104.Final release note: https://netty.io/news/2023/12/15/4-1-104-Final.html
4.1.103.Final release note: https://netty.io/news/2023/12/13/4-1-103-Final.html
4.1.101.Final release note: https://netty.io/news/2023/11/09/4-1-101-Final.html

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Java

[jbonofre]

I will take a look on this one if you don't mind.